You want it? You have it! You just have to allow yourself to feel it. Tapping into your higher source of love will open the access to healing yourself.

A Ph.D. friend of mine wrote her doctoral thesis on the relationship between emotions and cancer. What she found amazed her and her medical professors. She found that 90% of patients with cancer experience the emotion ANGER. This is a breakthrough finding. The cause and effect relationship is still unclear. Do cancer patients get angry, or do angry people get cancer? I believe the anger comes first. The emotional energy body is affected by the anger, which eventually shows up in the physical energy body in the form of cancer. She concluded that to counteract anger, you must embrace LOVE.

The one thing I have found that heals any problem, issue, or challenge is: Love, more specifically, to love yourself. When you decide to love yourself more each day, it is amazing how much better your life will get. You will feel better, look better, get the jobs you want, make more money, have better relationships, and find that negativity fades away. It’s a very simple premise – love yourself. It is like life – SIMPLE, BUT NOT EASY.

Life is a journey of self-discovery. To me, being enlightened is going within to learn who and what we are, to love and take care of ourselves. It is not selfish to love ourselves. It enables us to love other people. Love is the binding agent that holds the whole universe together.

How do you love yourself? I have asked this question all my life. I searched and searched to only realize it was here all the time. You be. You be yourself. You be your TRUE self, which is spirit, which is love. You be LOVING. You allow yourself to open up to the universal energy, pure love.

Be Present
One way to love is to be present in the moment. "Being present" means that you are 100% there and engaged in whatever you are doing at the time. Your mind is not wandering or daydreaming – you are present.

Focus on Love
What you focus on, you get. Constantly ask yourself the question:

How can I love myself and others more right NOW?

This question presupposes that I already love myself and gives the subconscious the command, right NOW.

Other ways include looking into a child’s eyes, being in nature, and focusing on beauty.

Give Love
The universal law is: you get what you give. So give love and you will receive it tenfold.

Appreciate
Appreciate all you have in this moment – the day, your body, your relationship with God, your friends. To me, love is deep appreciation. Loving ourselves means having a deep appreciation of who we are, the miracle of our bodies and our lives. Living each day knowing that just being here and being alive is a miracle in itself. You are a miracle. Whatever your fears or limiting beliefs, get over them. Shift your focus to one of awe and wonderment, one of bliss and appreciation, one of miracles and love. Accept yourself unconditionally with love, the whole package, all your imperfections and all your gifts.

Whole and Complete
You are already whole and complete. For some reason, you have chosen not to remember this or not to be aware of the truth now. This one concept took me over 32 years to understand – I am OK. That’s it. I’m OK – I accept myself just as I am and I am grateful. I am worthy of allowing myself to feel love – always and everywhere. In this, I found peace. Instead of "making myself better" I realized that I was already whole and complete. Now I could invent, reinvent, and create a new me every day, all the time "knowing" that I was already OK.

Unfortunately, many of us are not willing to love ourselves until we lose the weight, get the job, get the boyfriend/girlfriend, or get the degree. We often put conditions on our love – as well as conditions on loving other people and allowing other people to love us. How silly. We all have done it. The question is, why? I believe the root to loving oneself comes down to worthiness. Feeling worthy enough to deserve our own love. I wonder how life would be for you, I wonder what incredible healing power you could awaken within yourself, if you were able to relax and allow yourself to feel totally worthy and loved. If for no other reason than because God thought enough of you and you thought enough of yourself to come to earth.

Feeling Worthy
To allow ourselves to feel love, we must think of ourselves as worthy for love. You may strive for worthiness by focusing on a particular need through a certain vehicle. The problem with this approach is, if your vehicle gets taken away, you will no longer feel worthy and will therefore have no love. When we feel we are not loved, we die, inside and out.

We all fill our needs in some way, but the vehicle we use doesn’t always work for the long term. There is nothing wrong with these vehicles. The vehicles should be pursued with love and excitement. The challenge arises when we fill the need out of fear.


WHICH NEED DO YOU FILL WHEN YOU WANT TO FEEL WORTHY?

There are six basic needs. Which need do you predominantly focus on when you are stressed? For example, you may go to:

• Certainty: do something that you know you can control and thus feel worthy
  
  
• Variety: do lots of things to distract you and feel worthy because you are busy and active
  
  
• Significance: focus on an area of life where you are significant (i.e. work) to get your sense of self-worth
  
  
• Connection: connect with a friend or family member, because this makes you feel good
  
  
• Contribution: give to someone less fortunate than you, because this highlights the contrast between them and you, and also allows you to give without being rejected
  
  
• Growth: focus on the challenge and see how this will make you grow, maybe become introspective and write in your journal
  
  

I have used all six at times to feel worthy. I used to use significance, feeling that I was better or smarter, thus feeling worthy and allowing myself to feel love. Now, I predominantly go to the need CONNECTION. My vehicle for this connection was my girlfriend. The challenge with any vehicle is that the vehicle could go away. She did and I felt miserable. I have never felt such pain in my whole life. I felt so worthless, I could not even love myself. I realized I need to love myself.


HOW CAN YOU FEEL WORTHY WITHOUT USING A VEHICLE?

That is the $1,000,000 question because if you are able to do this, then you will be self-reliant and not look outside yourself for worthiness and thus love.

Answer the question for yourself.

The way I feel worthy to fill the need of Connection is to realize that:

• I am a child of God
• I am guided
• I am the Light of the World
• My name means Gift of God and I am
• God has a path for me
• The pain that I have experienced will help millions of people to either get out of pain or avoid it altogether
• I am a teacher
• I am worthy because I am alive
• God loves me so much that I am here
• I am on a mission and it will be revealed to me when it is appropriate
• I must prepare myself for God’s plan for me
• I must "live in the moment" and "be totally present."
  
  

That works for me for Connection. What is your need and what would allow you to feel worthy?

Love Thyself
We are in the midst of individual and global awakening. I believe we chose to be here on earth, to be part of this awakening, and to transform the world into a loving and peaceful place. In the Piscean age, 0 to 2000 AD, we looked outside ourselves for someone to save us, looking for our savior. Now we are moving into the Aquarian age, where we look within ourselves to find our savior, just as our religious leaders have taught us for thousands of years. If you are not willing to love yourself today, then you will not be willing to love yourself tomorrow and 20 years from now. Where will this get you? You held on to some belief that did not allow you to feel worthy enough to love yourself, so you missed out on love. Today is the day you can love yourself totally with no expectations.

Love thy neighbor as thyself. The "as thyself" tells it all because we really can’t love anyone else unless we love ourselves. Self-love is the most important gift we can give to ourselves. Because when we love ourselves, we love others. And when we hurt ourselves, we hurt others. The first step in your healing process is to "love thyself." Love is something we can choose, the same way we can choose kindness, hate, or anger. It is always a choice within us. Love is the most powerful healing force there is. Let us begin right now, in this moment, and choose love. This is your birthright. This is your opportunity to love yourself wholly and completely.

"Love is all there is."
John Lennon